Look For Good Behavior!
The rewards that we provide others are important because they do influence the behavior of their actions. The smiles, praise, touches, favors, treats, etc., that we provide to others following their behavior encourages them to do those behaviors more frequently in the future.
It is all too easy to notice bad behavior. Bad behavior is often irritating and it naturally grabs our attention. Be careful not to focus on bad behavior too much and to accidentally reward it with your attention more often than you reward good behavior with your attention. If you do this your children and loved ones may start to show more bad behavior to you than is good for anyone.
When we are too busy, tired, or otherwise distracted we are prone to not notice and praise, hug, smile-at, thank, touch, or kiss, etc., the good behaviors when they occur
It takes a mind-set and a goal to look-for and notice good behavior in our children and even our adult loved ones. Good behavior is frequently quiet, subtle, even expected, and therefore it is too often ignored. This is a mistake we cannot afford to make.
Like every other precious thing in our lives, good behavior needs some maintenance or it may malfunction and happen less and less.
Reward good behavior in others in natural, kind and loving ways and you will see more of it!
God Bless,
Dr. Tom
12/11/09
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